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On the mats, you will experience every possible way a person can attack you, and you will learn to defend yourself. People can attack you in other ways too. In business, for example, people can compete with you to put your business down. This can happen during the course of your life--on the streets, or your office, at school, etc. There are many situations where someone can try to dominate, and we can prepare you to come out a winner.
We teach people how to be in control of any kind of emotional situation. We help people to take control of any kind of situation, and to not let the situation control them. This is one of the biggest challenges people have. Many times we say or do things we normally wouldn't do if we were in a rational state of mind. Sometimes we have some problems we inherit from our parents and ancestors. For example, you may be talking with someone and maybe it was not their intention, but they antagonize or challenge you by the words they said and how they say it. In that moment you changed your behavior and temper. Then, sometimes you answer the person in a manner that you didn't intend to, because if the guy didn't offend you, you wouldn't have responded that way. You automatically "strike back" in your normal reaction, what happens? The guy keeps going and you add wood to the fire. The conversation turns into an argument to see who will "win" the discussion.
There are two reasons why we talk to another person…for pleasure or to express a point of view. When we work with our students we give them confidence. Consequently, when they face a difficult situation that may test their emotional control, they will know how to deal with it. This is what we call using "mental jiu-jitsu". Talk with the person, but don't antagonize or offend them.
There are hundreds of books out there on how to make friends and influence people. Every time you talk to someone, you have an opportunity to use mental Jiu-Jitsu. Be patient. Let the person speak.
By practicing this philosophy in all your endeavors, you not only control any situation, but also avoid all kinds of unwanted and unpleasant circumstances
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